How to Make a Daniel Vitalis - Neil Strauss #72

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This the most vulnerable and intimate interview I’ve ever shared publicly. I’ve decided to release the full unedited version, where I share deeply personal moments from my fairly traumatic childhood, because I think it’s important that we begin to have this conversation.

But first, let me introduce you to this week’s guest: My friend Neil Strauss is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The Game, Rules of the Game, Emergency, and Everyone Loves You When You’re Dead. Most recently, Neil has published an incredibly powerful piece of work called The Truth: An Uncomfortable Books About Relationships. In this book, Neil shares some very intimate and personal moments from his past that shed light onto his adult relationships, which made me feel comfortable to share a bit about my past here. The theme of this show is mommy/daddy issues: we all have them — even those with seemingly perfect childhoods.

Please have compassion on me, my family and yourself as you listen in. Thank you for being here and allowing me to share so openly!

Episode Breakdown:

  • Why Neil wrote The Truth
  • What The Truth is all about
  • Daniel’s feelings on sexuality
  • How your relationships with your parents can heavily influence your adult relationships
  • Neil and Daniel dive into Daniel’s childhood
  • A bit about Neil’s childhood story
  • An intimate, transformational experience for Daniel and his mother
  • A book about recovery
  • Elders and olders
  • Finding your sexual species
  • Long term happiness vs short term pleasure
  • Finding Neil and his work

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Meet Neil

Neil is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The Game, Rules of the Game, Emergency, and Everyone Loves You When You’re Dead. He is also the coauthor of four previous bestsellers: How to Make Love Like a Porn Star (with Jenna Jameson), The Dirt (with Mötley Crüe), Don’t Try This at Home (with Dave Navarro), and The Long Hard Road Out of Hell (with Marilyn Manson). A former music critic at The New York Times and a longtime writer for Rolling Stone, Strauss lives in Los Angeles, CA.